My Bullying Story
Hello my name is Maria. I am a 19-year-old student, studying Creative Media Computing at Glynd?r University.
I live at home with my mum, my mum's fiancé, my three brothers, and my boyfriend. I have one dog, called Penny (Yorkshire terrier) and I think she's about 7 or 8 years old and a cat named Dizzy.
I have been bullied from a very young age. I remember just starting nursery school and having no family around me, only children my age, but because I was the quiet one in the corner who never really wanted to talk out loud, that’s when the children started to pick on me, trip me up and treat me like nothing.
And then junior years came along, this was my worst primary school experience as I got threatened by this lad to do 'things' or he would make my life 'Hell', so he said. I was only about 8 or 9 and him the same, but still having to be through such ordeal at a young innocent age was the most horrible experience ever!
Moving on to the final years of primary school. I thought these years would be the easiest, little did I know what was in store for me…
The same lad that pestered me in the school toilets still tormented me in year 5 and 6 but along with pretty much all of the school. He spread rumors about me, said I had 'germs' and no one came near me. If I walked into a classroom all I got was looks, stares, and laughs. I was called horrible names and kept getting distracted by the lads in my class, poking me in the back until it got to me and I had to turn round. I couldn't say anything of course, I was so insecure and shy.
One day, I was walking across the playground and two lads where swinging a skipping rope around and as soon as I walk past them, they swung it around my neck until I choked. The diner lady came over and took me to see the headmistress. She saw the red mark around my neck and I don’t even think she punished the two lads, really.
The next day at home it was a Monday morning and I was in bed. I didn't want to wake up, obviously as I'd cry myself to sleep every night since all the bullying happened. I bottled it in all that time since nursery.
I told no one – not even my parents.
I was in the bathroom, locked the door and mum heard me crying, as soon as I heard mum ask me what’s wrong I went silent, she kept asking and asking what was wrong, but I didn't want to say, I didn't want to say because I didn't want to get bullied anymore for being a 'snitch'.
But eventually, after about an hour of complete silence and not saying a thing, I told mum everything little by little, with tears here and there. My mum immediately rang up the school and told the head mistress what had happened and I had a week off school while all the kids had a “telling off”, and the main bullies were made to write me a sorry letter but only one person did.
And still today, my parents don’t know about what that one lad did to me in the toilets…
I have grown up being quite shy and reserved, but close friends have noticed in the last year or so I have come out of my shell a lot and have a new found confidence.
I have been able to do a lot of things and face new challenges I never would have wanted to take on before.
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briony
Commented 7 months ago - 24th October 2012 - 21:26pm
I cannot imagine how brave and strong you must be to write this article and live through this ordeal. Your story is very insperational and touching. More people should speak out like you and help put a stop to bullying!
GeoffCLIC
Commented 7 months ago - 29th October 2012 - 10:31am
Thank you for sharing your story Maria, by sharing we can change thigs for the better
lisa young wrexham
Commented 7 months ago - 1st November 2012 - 12:39pm
Being on the receiving end of bullying is terrible if anyone needs someone to talk to call into the INFO shop we have counsellors you can refer yourself to who will do their best to get you an appointment as soon as they can
i_bite!
Commented 7 months ago - 12th November 2012 - 01:53am
Being treated badly and being bullied can either make or break a person if they don't speak out, I think its a huge well done to anyone who can stand up and say yes this has happened to me, an I want it changed your school should have noticed an picked up on things. I believe teachers should be trained better in spotting bullies an victims I got bullied for my sports until had the guts to stand up and fight back but that doesn't always work for people they can never speak up I bet if you were to see they lads now they wouldn't say boo! I'm a strong believer in karma they will get what the deserve for how they treated you. Great article an as I write this I am actually crying for you, you have some strength an courage to able to write this!