She Is The Bully
I understand how difficult being a victim on bullying is. In fact, I am a victim of bullying.
I just thought I'd share some advice on this particular subject
Everybody says the reason she is so horrid is because she is jealous of me or insecure.
I'm not saying that's her fault, but still, it's not an excuse to ruin somebody else's life. It's not even a cause - she needs to find a way of dealing with how she is feeling.
So this girl, she makes me feel like rubbish. Like I'm worthless. She manages to convince me I'm fat, ugly and mean. She's even made videos about me and my friend about us being horrid.
Every day, I see her, she's in my school class, so I could easily tell a teacher or a parent, but I can't. I know I should, but I can't. She has a way of twisting her words so people will feel sorry for her. My aunty has told me to ignore her, avoid her, but how can I if I see her every day at school? There's no way of getting out of the situation unless I move schools, which I can't. I can't leave my friends!
This girl has made me do some of my biggest regrets, which I'm not going to talk about. She's made me do things no person should ever have to do. She's made me leave people behind, people who I really loved. She's made me do things I didn't want to do.
So, this is a chance to stop. I say, we confront the bully. I say we tell people. It makes you feel so alone, when there's no way of getting out of a situation. But whatever happens, you shouldn't feel alone. Building up courage is hard. Really difficult. Especially when you know things that the bully can do. But you at least have to try. You can't just give up and let the bully walk all over you.
TELL SOMEBODY. I know it's not going to be easy, but every good thing is hard to get. Get yourself out of the situation, out of it. It doesn't matter who you tell, it just has to be somebody who will help.
Just talking about it can make so much difference. Just try.
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Snow..
Commented 12 months ago - 20th May 2012 - 21:56pm
That's some really good advice. I totally agree, someone's jealousy or insecurity is never an excuse to ruin somebody else's life. I'm fed up of hearing that excuse for a certain group of people.
Now I'll be the first to turn around and say if I think something, I'll say it. So when I was telling a teacher what a girl had done to me, and they asked "Are you sue *name* did that, I can't imagine someone like her doing something like that" I went nuts. I was then frustrated with nearly every teacher in this school, because it seemed that this group of girls had a record so perfect they would never do anyone wrong.
This led me to telling one teacher how bad I thought she and her staff were at their jobs, and I got into a lot of trouble.
So heres something I want to add. No matter how frustrating other people's reactions will be, do not lose your temper. Bite your tongue and think for 10 seconds before you say what you were planning to. Just think about the consequences of your own actions (chances are you'll get into the most trouble if you lose your temper), and think about another adult or friend you trust enough to tell.
The bully will always get caught out, I promise :)
niardeester123
Commented 12 months ago - 24th May 2012 - 16:30pm
Thank you! I used to never think about what I said, and I'm pretty sure that I ended up hurting loads of people. But I do think now, and if I'm honest I have way more friends! I think people are slowly realising that she's ruining mine and my bestfriend's lives, so yeah, the bully does always get caught out:)